Tuesday, April 11, 2006

Craig Varner

No human should have to endure the deep, helpless pain of watching their own child die.

Since I received the call from my friend Thelma last night telling me her son had just given up his fight against cancer, I've been deep in thought about his life and her pain. Thelma is one of the sweetest people I know, and I can only imagine the hell she must be going through. Not many years ago, she lost her husband to heart disease, and began a new, lonely chapter of her life - looking only to her children and a few close friends for company and support.

Today, she is planning her son's funeral.

My heart goes out to her. I wish there were something more I could do.

Godspeed, Craig.


Lee Ann said...

That is so sad.
My heart goes out to her.
When my son was born with a heart problem and nearly died, then made it to 4 mos.old-had open heart surgery and nearly died again, I can relate to the stress she has been under.
Fortunately my son has been very healthy since. We are still looking at another open heart surgery most likely within the next 10 years or so, but very healthy at this time.
My heart truly goes out to her. God bless him and her as well.

CP said...

Like LeeAnn, my sons (twins) underwent heart surgery at a very young age, one of them, in utero.

I lost one son. I still have the other, happy and healthy at 10 years old after an additional open heart surgery.

There is no amount of pain in the world greater than the pain of losing a child. None. It is incomparable to any other pain, physical or emotional. I grieve for your friend as well, and will pray for her little angel to sleep well in Heaven.


Nichole said...

My heart goes out to your friend and her family. Having actually lost Brax for a brief moment after he was born then with a lot of help from above, getting him back. I can both empathize and sympathize with their family. My thoughts and prayers go out to them.

Lightning Bug's Butt said...

Jeez. I wish I could think of more to type than "sorry."

Raehan said...

That is hard to hear, and even harder for you, I'm sure.

May your friend find comfort in the months and years ahead.

OldHorsetailSnake said...

Bummer, Dave. I'm so sorry for the Mom.

Fantastagirl said...

I am so sorry to hear of this, my thoughts are with you and your friend. I feel so bad for the mom, how hard this will be for her. Let her know it's okay to be mad. We hate cancer too!

Weary Hag said...

Sorry to learn this sad, sad news.

Realize Dave ... your friend will never be the same again. Not ever.
And don't be afraid to talk about it with her ... later on, it might be the only way she ever feels 'normal' again.